How to scroll through your emotions instead of your phone
How often have you been looking at your phone and missed the joke in the room or your toddler doing something so sweet?
It also causes us to miss out on a lot of life.
Our phones are our greatest thief to the present moment.
What do you do when you...
Get into an argument with a loved one? Scroll through the phone
Feel frustrated with work? Scroll through the phone.
Feel fearful about the future or world events? Scroll through the phone
We can, and often do, use our phones to numb our feelings.
This numbing process is the same thing we experience when we are upset with someone and want to distance from them.
The only difference is that, here, we are distancing from ourselves and our feelings.
We are always in one of two states.
We are either protecting from or connecting to ourselves or our loved ones throughout the day.
A Course in Miracles describes this as being able to feel one of two emotions-
-fear or love.
-protecting or connecting.
In protecting, our amygdala (the emotion center of our brain) activates when it determines there is a threat of fear and aggression. Once it senses a threat, it moves our amygdala into a state of protection. Once upon a time, this threat looked more like a bear was chasing you but now can mean that someone posted an awful comment on your newsfeed. As a result, your pre-frontal cortex (the thinking center) freezes and makes it difficult, to nearly impossible, to access your feelings, leaving you disconnected from your feelings and not present to your life.
The amygdala not only shuts down to protect during a threat, it also connects emotional meaning to your memories. It connects your happiness to a happy memory and it connects your fear and anxiety to an upsetting memory, especially past traumas.
We protect or we connect.
What have you been doing more of lately?
When we are connecting and remaining present, we are building a life that is rich in feeling, connection and joy as we remain connected to ourselves, to others and to our emotions.
When we protect, we avoid, we distance, we scroll.
Here's the truth about emotions though...
it's an all-or-nothing kind of thing.
We are not able to select which emotion we want to numb or protect from. If we want to numb one emotion, we numb all of them.
It is energetics.
Our emotions live in our sacral chakra and we are either allowing that energy to flow and connect with people or we are causing that energy to become stagnant so we cannot feel that feeling we "think" we don't want to feel. However, this resistance to feeling this singular feeling causes all the energy in this energy center to stagnate and the result is that we feel nothing.
Numbing is not a one-way street.
We cannot selectively numb our emotions.
It is all or nothing.
This energetic state looks a lot like depression.
So how do we remedy this?
We sit in the uncomfortable present moment feeling, knowing this feeling is strengthening us and teaching us how to endure more without being triggered, rather than picking up our phone and scrolling.
Begin with 10 seconds.
Resist picking up the phone when you're uncomfortable for... 10 seconds...which may feel like a lifetime at first.
Then make it 20 seconds, then a minute.
You get the idea.
If you tell yourself you'll never pick up the phone when you're upset, you'll never try to make progress.
It's too limiting. Begin the process toward remaining connected to your emotions and your present life with 10 seconds and you will begin down your pathway toward experiencing sheer joy.
If one emotion is too intense to sit with for 10 seconds, scroll to another emotion until you find one that you can be present with so you can begin to awaken to your life.
These 10 seconds will raise your energetic frequency.
As you remain in a higher energetic state, you attract a higher vibe experience into your life.
This is how you attract a life that feels connected, passionate and full.
Join me for this week's meditation, Healing your emotions through presence meditation, that will help you to scroll through your emotions and heal rather than scroll through your phone, the next time you find yourself upset.
And the healing doesn't even end there this week! My podcast is up and live for you to listen to and heal!
This week's guest improves her family's dynamic by diving into the Destiny Cards and connects the dots to her anxiety as she breaks down her journey and arrives at the root cause, leaving the episode with a powerful Life Playbook. I am so grateful for her courage to share her story and grateful for the incredible guidance that was channeled through me to help her. Hope you enjoy her story.
Listen here!
See you in meditation and on my podcast!
Much love,
Erin