How name calling offers you a roadmap to healing
Have you ever been in a heated argument and called someone a name? Or has someone ever called you a name?
Have you ever been described by someone to be a certain way either positively or negatively?
It says so much more about the describer of these words than it does of you.
I was helping a friend process a challenging situation and she went on to say, "Yeah, and then this person went off on me and said, "You are so selfish, mean, lonely...."
And then it hit me and I said to her,
"This is your roadmap to how he feels about himself."
Name calling is the greatest roadmap you can obtain to clearly define how someone else feels about themselves and how you feel about yourself.
We can use this roadmap to ignite compassion within ourselves and to help heal the situation.
We see in others only what remains to be acknowledged within ourselves.
Loving What Is: Four Questions that can change your life by Byron Katie is a phenomenal book that describes this healing perspective.
In this book, Katie refers to this examining process as doing The Work and asks you to fill out her Worksheet.
Within the worksheet, she asks you to name and describe the situation you are upset about and encourages you to be judgmental hoping to elicit clear adjectives and names. Through her turnaround process, she helps you to understand that these are the areas you need to change and that what you are irritated about with someone else is simply the part of you that is in need of healing itself.
Emotions are the roadmap to the treasure of the soul.
Join me for today's meditation, Healing from an argument meditation, as we heal your relationships together by defining your own healing roadmap. It is raw, powerful and so healing.
See you in meditation!
Much love,
Erin